Frequently asked questions
“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” – Dr Wayne Dyer
At the beginning of a session, I will ask you to share what’s been going on in your life, what’s on your mind, what’s bothering you, or whether there are any goals you’d like to discuss. I will encourage you to speak openly. I will listen and may take notes as you speak. You won’t be criticized, interrupted or judged. What is shared between us will be kept in the strictest confidentiality. You can share your feelings freely without worrying that what you are sharing may hurt someone’s feelings, damage a relationship, or be penalized in any way.
At times I may give you some homework to complete after a session. The content of the homework may varry and I would encourage you to complete these exercises because it is important that you practice what was covered during our sessions. You need to be willing to be an active participant in your therapy. I can guide you and provide tools for you to use but I cannot implement those new resources in your life. Only you can do that. Some examples of homework may be to spend some time each day pounding a pillow to safely release pent-up emotions, make a nightly journal entry, or any number of “steps” and “challenges” relevant to your goals. At the beginning of each session we will review your homework and address any areas where you got frustrated, stuck, or off-track. This is important since we can identify ‘barriers’ preventing you form moving forward.
Every client is unique, and I will cater my approach to your problem to your unique situation. I employ Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy, Small Fiqure Work and a variety of other modalities in my approach to the problems my clients bring to me. Ultimately, regardless of my approach, I want to assure you that I will listen without judgment and help guide you to discover solutions to the challenges you are facing.
You can complete the message form to ask me questions or if you would like to arrange a time for us to set up and initial introductory session.Or you can also call me to have an initial conversation over the phone. This is normally a short conversation for free where you have the opportunity to meet me we would discuss your needs and goals for counselling. If you wish to continue to work together, we would set a time for sessions and the amount of sessions (normally 6 or 12 weeks depending on the your needs.
During the first session, I aim to get to know you. Who you are, what you do, where you grew up, your family structure, and what is important for you? This will give me and you an idea of support systems and other resources we can tap into during therapy. We will set general goals for our work together and and discuss how often we will meet.I will aim to discuss and answer as many if not all of your questions that may be on your mind. I will ask you to complete the initial intake paperwork which covers the major basic questions (demographics, history and what’s bringing you to see me, and so on).
I believe that the person is not the problem but rather that we are facing issues and problems that is caused by outside events. It is not about what is ‘wrong’ with you rather it’s about understanding you and helping you to make sense of your experience.
I am guided by a collaborative approach between you, the expert in your life, and myself. I am flexible and will adapt my therapeutic approach to your needs as we are all different and there is no ‘one-size-fits-all’ therapeutic approach.
The models I use frequently is Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) and Solution Focused Therapy (SFT). I also draw on theories and techniques from other therapies such as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Narrative Therapy.
Although knowledge about psychology and therapeutic theories are important the most important factor for me is the therapeutic relationship. This relationship is grounded in trust where you will feel emotionally safe and able to speak openly knowing that you will be heard. Using an emphatic, collaborative, and non-judgmental manner I will support you to develop your self-understanding, improve well-being, and achieve your therapeutic goals.
I will ask exploratory and guided questions to understand what is happening for you at that moment. I would explore your thinking, feelings and actions to gain a deeper understanding. We will look at the underlying beliefs and values that guide your actions. I will not tell you what to do or what to think, but will help you form your own decisions and support you in bringing about the changes you desire.
This is important because you are an expert in your own life. I will encourage you to discuss freely with me the reasons you came to see me.
Sometimes I will ask you to draw something for me or I will ask you to use toy figures to describe a situation for me. These strategies can help individuals communicate, explore repressed thoughts and emotions, address unresolved trauma, and experience personal growth. However, I will only use it if you feel comfortable doing it. Together we will review the progress of our session to make sure we stay on track.
I will send you an invoice with payment details. I do not have credit card facilities at the moment.
Choosing The Right Therapist For You
The match between therapist and client is essential because a trusting client-therapist relationship is a crucible of wellness and successful therapy. I want to encourage you to read more about my approach to working with teens, adults, and parents so that you can determine whether I might be a good match for you or child.
If you have any other questions and would like to learn more about the therapy services I offer, please feel free to contact me by phone at +64 27 7765 008 or email me. You may also request an appointment by clicking on the button below.